Debra Jarvis
The Irreverent Reverend with something to say.

(anonymous e-mail photo)






The beloved Nissan Sentra (1986)
















September 11, 2001









September 11, 2001








Isaiah 6:7-8
(NIV)

Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, "Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?"

And I said, "Here am I. Send me!"









The Golden Roo








Matthew 6:25-27, 34
(NIV)

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?"








"Missing" flyers








In front of the Armory at 76th and Lexington

I wore two of these signs, one pinned on my chest and one pinned on my back.

Baseball connected us. (Stephen J. Carrera/AP)

God or Edgar Martinez, the designated hitter?(John Froschauer/AP)

The Church of Baseball




A man stops to look at the "missing" flyers.

Philip showing the tie he won in a cello competition








Me and Maya






Wes and I after our return to Seattle--stunned but grateful.

Psalm 30
New International Version (NIV)
I will exalt you, O Lord, for you lifted me out of the depths and did not let my enemies gloat over me.
O Lord my God, I called to you for help and you healed me.

O Lord, you brought me up from the grave; you spared me from going down into the pit.

Sing to the Lord, you saints of his; praise his holy name. For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.

When I felt secure, I said, "I will never be shaken. O Lord, when you favored me, you made my mountain stand firm; but when you hid your face, I was dismayed.

To you, O Lord, I called; to the Lord I cried for mercy; "What gain is there in my destruction, in my going down into the pit? Will the dust praise you? Will it proclaim your faithfulness? Hear, O Lord, and be merciful to me, O Lord, be my help."

You turned my wailing into dancing, you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing to you and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever.


"I'd Rather Be Here Now"

Delivered to University Congregational Church United Church of Christ, September 8th, 2002

Scripture Readings
Psalm 30
Isaiah 6:1-8
Matthew 6:25-27, 34

Many of you already know that my husband Wes and I were in Manhattan last year on September 11th. You know because I sent out an e-mail to family and friends that was printed in the church newsletter. But there were some things that I didn't write about in that e-mail, and there are some things that after a year, I am now seeing clearly for the first time.

Last year at this time I was driving a little red 1987 hatch-back Nissan Sentra. I loved that car. Not only did I love that car, but I loved the bumper sticker on the back that read, "I'd Rather Be Here Now." It seemed that no one else in Seattle had that bumper sticker and people often recognized my car because of it. The saying comes partially from a book by Ram Dass entitled Be Here Now which is a book about being in the present moment—something which Buddhism talks about, and which I think Jesus is talking about which he says, "Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself . . " It was challenging driving around with this for everyone to see.

One time around 5:30 in the afternoon, I coming down 23rd, just as the Montlake bridge went up. It was an amazing 95 degree day in Seattle. I had all my windows down because the little red Sentra had no air conditioning. So it was easy for me to hear the women in the SUV next to me call out, "Excuse me! We're just wondering—would you really rather be here now?"

And I laughed, and then thought, well, yeah, it's sunny in Seattle. I'm here in my car, I'm breathing, I see other people, the trees are starting to turn color, the sky is so blue and suddenly I really was there now and my frustration evaporated.

In Psalm 30 the psalmist tells us that "weeping may remain in the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning." There are many of us who are still weeping about Sept. 11th, and there are those of us who are weeping, but are managing to rejoice in the in-between moments. And although there are a lot of things that we as a nation have done wrong or done badly, I want to tell you about some of the things that happened that made me believe that the soul of America is essentially good.

Wes and I arrived in New York on the evening of September 10th, planning to leave on September 12th. On the morning of September 11th we were on our way to an art museum when we received a phone call from our host telling us that the World Trade Center had been attacked.

I ran to the television and while waiting for it to warm up, looked out the window where I could see billowing clouds of smoke. I turned to the TV and saw the image on the screen and I simply could not put them together.

Wes and I left the apartment after about an hour and ended up as volunteer phlebotomists, drawing blood from donors, in the New York City Blood Bank. It may sound as if we waltzed in and starting drawing blood, but the truth is , we had to take a crash course in NYC Blood Bank procedure, we were both rusty in our phlebotomy skills—I hadn't drawn blood in 20 years and Wes doesn't do it on a regular basis.

One word comes to mind when I think about that first day: sweat. Not only was it hot and humid, but we were nervous and scared and there were people lined up for blocks wanting to give blood. And we were new and making mistakes—I taped my glove to a man's arm and because he was so hairy, rather than ripping off the tape, I wiggled out of the glove and then cut the glove off his arm except for the one finger that was under the tape. He was good sport about it, but I was mortified and I couldn't help remembering my bumper sticker. And I thought, Would I really rather be here now? And my answer was swift: Yes, I would rather be here than anywhere else in the world.

So for three or fours hours we were just madly drawing blood and sweating and then suddenly there was a break in the activity—no patients for a few moments. We sat on the edge of the chaise lounges, silently resting. Then the door frame was filled with a big, tall red-headed man. He had a smile on his face. Most important, he had visible, bulging arm veins.

Simultaneously Wes and I said, "Come right over here."

"He's mine!" I whispered fiercely. Then sweetly, "You need a break, honey."

"No, I don't, sweetheart. I think he's mine."

The red-headed man gave a laugh and handed me his paperwork. "Sorry, mate, I'm going with the lady."
He turned out to be Australian and worked at the U.N. in security.

I really wish that I could have had a long conversation with him, but he filled his blood bag so quickly that all I got to know about him was that he was married to an American woman. I walked him to the canteen for his juice and cookies. (Part of our job was walking donors to the canteen, so we would be there to catch them in case they passed out.)

As I turned to leave I grabbed a bottle of water for myself and thanked him again for donating blood.
He looked at my bottle of water. "So you're going to be the Golden Roo." I looked at him quizzically. "Do you know about the Golden Roo?"

And I thought, the Golden Rule? Of course I know about the Golden Rule, I'm ordained for God's sake.

"C'mere," he said. "I want to give you something." He unpinned from his shirt a golden kangaroo tie tack. "Here, for you, 'cause you're the Golden Roo. "

He then explained (and I don't know to this day if the story is true) that when there is a drought and a pod of kangaroos are dying of thirst, they send out one kangaroo to find water.

"It's always the mile," he said. "Always the mile."

I didn't understand how a kangaroo knows it has gone a mile, and then I couldn't remember if Australia used miles or kilometers, but I didn't want to interrupt.

So he went on and told me that if the kangaroo finds water, he returns and then the rest of the pod smells the water on his muzzle and then follows him to the source. If he doesn't return—well, he's dead, but at least they didn't sacrifice the whole pod.

"It's always the mile," he said again. "Because the femile is too valuable to the pod." And with that, the light broke forth for me and he handed me the pin.

"So there you go, Golden Roo."

I thanked him and quickly walked away because I didn't want him to see me cry. I was so moved by that image: The Golden Roo bringing back water—nourishing, refreshing, life-giving water to the pod.

And I can't help thinking that the Golden Roo is a lot like the prophet Isaiah. "Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?" And Isaiah answers, "Here I am! Send me!"

By the third day, the adrenalin rush had worn off, the nights of bad sleep were catching up with us and the acrid air stung our eyes and burned our throats. It was at the end of this third day that Wes had a particularly difficult "stick."

She was about 50 years-old with short cropped hair, no make-up. Her veins were tiny and deep and she was probably dehydrated, which made it even more difficult to find her vein. I could see she was terrified. So while Wes worked on her right arm, I came over and held her left hand.

"I waited 6 hours to get in," she said. "I've never given blood in my life because I'm terrified of needles. "

And I just looked at her in wonder. "How much courage you have," I said, "to come and give blood when you are terrified. And to wait with that terror for six hours. I think you are a most remarkable person."

The tears ran down her cheeks. "My brother died of AIDS this year. There was nothing I could do about it. Nothing I could do to help." She swallowed hard. "So when this—the attack happened, I decided that this time I was going to help. And I'm so happy to be here."

Here. Here I am Lord, send me. I'd rather be here now. She was glad to be there, terrified, and at the same time, overcoming her fear and making a difference. And her example was like . . . fresh, cool water to me.

She was the Golden Roo for me. And since then I have wondered how many times each of us is secretly called to be the Golden Roo for one another. Who will come back with words of encouragement, words of hope and love? Whom shall I send?

The Blood Bank was full at the end of that day, so they told us we didn't need to return. So I went down to the Armory to volunteer as a chaplain. The Armory was where families of the lost came to fill out Missing Person reports and check the list of the dead.

There were several of us, and we received our briefing from Mindy, a tall, commanding woman with blonde hair and piercing blue eyes. I confess that at first I didn't pay much attention during the briefing because I thought, I've done this for 16 years—yawn. So I looked at her hair and thought she could use a trim and maybe wear it up for disasters.

Suddenly her eyes were on me and she said, "And above all—do NOT ask police officers or firemen about their feelings!" I blinked and nodded but thought, Not ask about their feelings? Well, that's my whole gig! Why can't I ask them how they feel?

As if she heard my thoughts she said, "We need the rescue personnel to remain professional." She paused and let this sink in and then continued. "Do not make any sudden moves around the officers. These are trained professionals and they can hurt you. Do not interrupt any police officers. I want you all to simply walk around and be visible. When you are needed an officer will raise his or her hand for you."

Although I made myself visible and walked all over that Armory, no cops signalled for me to come and help out. So that first day, I spent most of my time talking with cops who weren't at that moment talking to families. And what we talked about most was baseball. They loved it.

I said to a group of cops, "You know, I really admire you New York cops—but you're so hideously misguided about baseball." (I said this without making any sudden moves.)

"Yeah, what's your team called? The Seattle Sailors or somethin'? No, the Seamen, no, I know, the Mariners." (He pronounced "Mariners" ma-REEN-ers.) This got a huge laugh. I wanted to use my finely honed pastoral care skills, but they didn't want to be serious. They didn't want to talk about grief or spirituality. Why debate the existence of God when you can argue the merits of the designated hitter?

Whom shall we send to talk about baseball?
Here I am, send me! So although it was a bit of a blow to my ego, I was the Golden Roo and I was bringing laughter to the rest of the pod. Sometimes what we want to give is not what others really need. So we have to scrap our big, important plans and pay attention to what they need.

It was at the end of my third day as a chaplain, that I called my parents in California just to check in. Outside the Armory MCI had set up a trailer with dozens of phones which any voluteers, families and rescue personnel could use to call anywhere in the world. The phone rang long enough for me to think that I would have to leave a message. But my mother answered and I could tell she had been crying. This is not a woman who cries easily so I was shocked.

"Mom! What's the matter? We're fine! Wes and I are okay."

There was a long silence during which I could tell she was swallowing and trying to regain her composure. Finally she said, "Cousin Andy was on the Pennsylvania flight."

What? My stomach curled up into a tight little ball and I felt as if someone had a hand around my throat. My mother was waiting for me to respond and in those seconds I understood why Mindy had said, "Don't ask them about their feelings. We need them to remain professional."

I calmly said, "Mom, when I get home, I'll call you and we'll talk about Andy. But I can't talk about him right now." I knew I couldn't talk about him and then go back in and finish my shift. Then I hung up and sat there in stunned silence. I decided to tell no one because I was sure they would send me home.

I simply parked that horrible fact in the corner of my brain, vowing to get to it later. I had good support back at the apartment. We were staying with two friends, scientists at the Rockefeller. Their daughter Maya was 11 and their son Philip was 13. We have known these kids since they were babies. We are known to them as Uncle Moosely and Auntie Deb.

When I walked in the door that evening, Maya said, "Auntie Deb, let me give you a hug." And she put her little arms around me and squeezed me. She was the Golden Roo.

I couldn't imagine what could be a more healing experience than cuddling on the couch with her and Philip. Except possibly playing the hand clapping game with Maya during which she chanted:

Eenie meenie sicilini,
Oo-ah-bop-ah-lini
Ockey-jockey, ever-ockey,
I love you.
Take a peach,
Take a plum,
Take a stick of bubble gum,
No peach,
No plum,
Just a stick of bubblegum.


I wish I could tell you I was comforted that night by prayer, meditation, scripture, and a couple rounds of Gregorian chants. But the truth is, it was the unfathomable mystery of the hand-clapping game that renewed me. I think it was when she looked into my eyes and said the line, "Ockey-jockey, ever-ockey, I love you."

We left New York City September 17th, six days and seven nights after we arrived.

Nine days later I totalled my 16 year-old Nissan Sentra. Ever since I had returned from New York I had felt depressed, distracted, confused. I couldn't write the sympathy cards for Andy's death to my cousins and aunt. I was tired all the time. Of course I see now that I shouldn't have been driving that day.

It's true it was the first rain of the season, but it's also true that I was simply not present while driving. I had been listening to an NPR interview with a jazz singer and I was fantasizing about what great clothes I would wear if I were a jazz singer and was it too late for me? Suddenly I was jamming on the brakes and hydroplaning long enough to say aloud, "I'm going to hit her!"

There was a big noise. My car stopped moving and the hood of my car now looked liked a red metal tent—a perfect ninety degree angle. I couldn't get out of the driver side since the frame was bent and I couldn't open the door.

So I crawled out the passenger side to survey the damage. My lights were broken and my radiator was twisted and shoved backward toward the windshield. But of course the rear of the car was fine. The "I'd Rather Be Here Now" bumper sticker was perfectly intact.

And I thought, Well. If had truly been here just a few moments ago, I wouldn't be here now with my wrecked car. So maybe I'd better start being here now.

Oddly enough, the young woman I rear-ended didn't know I hit her. She was just so thankful that she stopped in time not to hit the car in front of her, who stopped suddenly. She was also thankful that she was not driving her own car, but a loaner from her dealer. There were just a few scratches on her bumper. And miraculously, I was not hurt at all.

We parked our cars in the University Village parking lot and waited for the Seattle police to arrive. In the two hours during which we waited in her car, I learned why she moved to Seattle from Florida, that her boyfriend's golf scholarship was taken away and that her upcoming wedding was planned for summer of 2002 and did I think she was too young to get married? Would I really rather be here now? You bet. We talked frankly about marriage, careers, children.


When the officer arrived he said to her, "Young lady, you have a choice. You don't really have any damage to your car. If you want me to write a report I will. But if I do," he said gesturing toward me, "I have to give her a big ticket and it goes on her record."


She said, "Well, that's bogus! Don't do that. Can I go now?" We hugged goodbye smiling and laughing.

The officer turned to me. "You seem pretty chipper considering you just totalled your car."

I laughed. "I just got back from New York city. This is nothing."

"What were you doing there?"

I looked at him with his muscled arms and crew cut hair. "I was mostly talking to cops."

"Well, maybe you can talk to me."

So while we waited for the tow truck he told me about how he had just been called into active duty and how when he joined the reserves it was just his wife and him.

"But now I have kids," he said. "And my little boy doesn't understand why I won't be there for his birthday. And they won't even tell me where I'm going or what I'm going to be doing."

He sounded scared and I couldn't blame him. Whom shall I send? Don't send me. As he talked I kept thinking, this is right where I am supposed to be—here, now, listening to this policeman tell me his fears about war.

And when we finally said good-bye we did that two-handed-up-the-arm kind of handshake. I really wanted to hug him, but I didn't want to make any sudden moves.

A few days later I made a pilgrmage out to the wrecking yard. Just seeing my car made me cry. When I opened the door the little bell started ringing because the key was in it. It was as if it was saying, "Hi, Hi! Where've you been!?" It nearly killed me.

I went into the office and filled out all the paperwork. Then I went back and got in the car, rolled up the windows and sat there and wailed for 20 minutes. I cried for the car and for Andy, and all the people in the plane, the Pentagon and in the World Trade Center. I cried for all the world.

The guys at Jim's Northgate Towing stood outside wearing dirty baseball caps, smoking cigarettes and watching me. I could see them talking and then suddenly two of them came striding toward me. They walked up to either side of the car and yanked off the side-view mirrors.

Stunned, I got out of my car. They handed me the mirrors saying, "We know how some people get attached to their cars. You're going to be okay."

Then they both patted me on the back. How could I explain? I thanked them and walked home laughing. And I was refreshed and renewed. They were Golden Roos. God helps us in unthinkable and surprising ways. Whom shall I send? I'll send the two guys from the wrecking yard.

Hear, O Lord, and be merciful to me, O Lord, be my help.
You turned my wailing into dancing,
you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy,
that my heart may sing to you and not be silent.
O Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever.

Sometimes I wear my Golden Roo pin to work. When people ask me about it I tell them about the red-haired Australian with the bulging veins. I usually finish the story by saying, "Everyone can be the Golden Roo and bring water back to the pod." Sometimes we have to look a long ways to find it. But it's always there. That is the promise



Copyright 2002
Debra Jarvis
All rights reserved


My Works

Awards
2001 Soul-Making Literary Prize Honorable Mention
1999 Jack Straw Award
Sermons
Reflections on being in Manhattan on September 11, 2001.
Memoir
A book about exercise, love, and a faith journey. (Lion, 1986)
Non-Fiction
How to control Type II diabetes through diet and exercise. (1989)
A pocket-size book which deals with the spiritual issues around HIV.(1990)
How to be a caregiver for someone with AIDS.(1992)